The “BDSM is therapeutic”-discussion

BDSM/Kink

Question:


Do you think that bdsm can help through difficult emotional times in your life? How can it help me emotionally?
Answer:
Questions like this always spark the discussion “is BDSM therapeutic?” and “Could there be BDSM-therapy?”
Even tho a lot of laymen would want to stand in the shadow of good old Freud, my answer is always rather pragmatic

BDSM as a form Therapy?

What is therapeutic?..

Good food can be therapeutic, screaming against the wind and waves at the seashore on a stormy autumn day can be therapeutic, a good workout can be therapeutic, a good fuck with a friend or friends can be therapeutic, a good talk with a dear friend can be therapeutic, a good run can be therapeutic, a nice ‘abusive’ BDSM-session on a willing victim can be therapeutic, a long and balanced whipping session can be therapeutic…
Maybe apart from “running therapy” and “Speransky-sessions”, I wouldn’t call those things “therapy” tho. But all of them could have a healing potential.

Also, wanting to be a good Dom gives a reason to be the best version of yourself and perhaps take care of yourself a bit more. The same goes for submission if you have a Dom or Dominatrix that you are willing to excel for as a sub… or slave… or choose the role of your liking.
A healthy vision on a BDSM-role can help you align yourself. Just as a loving partner can, or finding an interesting job.


Therapeutic does not mean therapy

(Psycho)therapy helps you find the healing salutogenic elements in your life and refrain from pathogenic influences. Therapy helps to create a new balance in your life. For your emotional ‘health’ can be pictured as an equilibrium between health promoting and sickness promoting elements.

BDSM as such, or individual sessions can be found on both sides of that scale depending on the right time/persons/amounts. Kink Aware therapy or coaching helps you decide what needs to be done with your life and your view on life to recalibrate this equilibrium. It places sex and kink and BDSM as a part of your life on this scale. It might help you to find partners and friends, to negotiate about BDSM-sessions, it talks about BDSM-relations in the span of other kicks and other life-goals to have a nice and healthy life as a kinkster.


Is BDSM therapy?

Maybe Kink Aware Professionals are a kinkster themselves and have great sessions with the ones they love or lust, sessions that might even feel therapeutic for the ones involved. But that is not “therapy”.
Sex and therapy don’t combine. Same goes for therapy and BDSM.


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