Monkeypox and Sexparties

Monkeypox and Sexparties update July’22
Monkeypox virus.

Monkeypox is a disease from a virus that isn’t really airborne but gets (most likely) spread by rubbing skin to skin, or by infected skin cells that still lay around somewhere after they were rubbed off the tiny scabs from former lesions.

So if we meet our friends at Pride… P.L.E.A.S.E be responsible and don’t infect others!

Monkeypox and Sexparties

Although there actually is a really really small chance of dying for people with comprised immune systems, and most people don’t even get too ill, some of the people with monkeypox -especially those with pustules in their rectum or in their urethra- have excruciating pain. People feel like there is broken glass in their rectum or dick.
And that a lot of people are lucky and don’t develop many symptoms nor have much pain. But that does not leave others safe. Some have already infected their eyes and lost sight. Some -as said- were left with scars in the face or are left with post-monkeypox ulcers in the intestines and genitals.

So if you’ve had symptoms like a mild fever, malaise, headache, and swollen lymph nodes, then that may just have been your incubation period! So from now on, you could contaminate others with this disease that can scar the skin of the face and the genitals or leave people with pain that is hard to manage. If that was the first stage of monkeypox, you will probably develop small lesions on the infected sites, in the mouth and actually all over the body, in and on the genitals, the anus, the palms of your hands and the soles of your feet (the last two being really tell-tale signs of monkeypox).

Lesions that are contagious!

Don’t kiss, don’t rub against others, don’t have sex. For the sake of others. And try to get yourself tested and get a vaccine within 2 weeks of contamination to contain the damage (works in 85%)

Science has shown that -contrary to vanilla beliefs- us kinksters are more aware and more responsible than ‘vanillas’. But we do have more sex, and in more places. Hence the reason why we should protect each other from Monkeypox.


Hopefully, you act responsibly. And be honest: that isn’t even that hard.
You don’t even need to stay in, like with Corona. No need for strict quarantines.
But please do take your responsibility and do not exchange saliva, no kisses, don’t rub your skin against other people’s skin and clean up the surfaces you had sex on before somebody else will have sex there. And go to your health clinician for safety and vaccine.

In that respect monkeypox is one of the more ‘sturdy’ viruses, so cleaning up your sex-surfaces might be more comparable with a Hep C – cleaning approach…).
So for cleaning tips before and after have a look at:

But at this time (June/July 2022) Moneypox spreads real fast mostly in the MSM (Men having Sex with Men)-community by people being intimate. Bare skin to bare skin is enough. So it is not an STI in the sense that sex is spreading it. Most people are kinda intimate while having sex. And just being intimate naked, or even kissing can be enough (so, therefore -don’t get your hopes up- condoms don’t do much in preventing this infection).

Clinical course

After infection an incubation period of 5-21 days with fever, malaise, headache, weakness and swollen lymph nodes (generalized or localized -e.g. neck, armpit, groin-).
Then the appearance of the infectious lesions: first rashes on any given part of the body including the mouth. Then little bumps -like pimples- or bigger bumps like pox, small ‘blisters’ filled with a little puss that eventually may pop. And then in the final -still contagious!- phase those will be scabbing over and resolving. This process takes 2-4 weeks in which you could spread the virus to others in your community and therefore I think that you should take care of your fellows…

Recognising in others
It can develop a bit like pimples on the location that was in contact with a dirty sex-surfaces or infected skin. Lesions are well-circumscribed, sometimes look like pimples, sometimes looks like herpes, sometimtes are more deep-seated, and often develop a bit of a dot on the top of the lesion.
Those lesions are relatively of the same size and at the same stage of ‘development’ on a single site of the body (ex: pustules on face or vesicles on legs)…
Don’t touch, don’t rub, don’t kiss and just ask if someone with these leasions like these perhaps recently had a mild fever, malaise, headache, and/or swollen lymph nodes.

This is not because I would want to stop you from having sex. I want you to have fun and take care 🙂

And if don’t believe me: please listen to Dan Savage talking to Dr. Carlton Thomas about how to not get monkeypox

Follow: instagram: @doctorcarlton

Or read in the British Medical Journal:



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A Kink Aware and openminded (relationship) coach. That does not mean you have to talk about kink, but at least here you don't have to be silent about it.

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