I’d like to sit down and talk about my shizzle personally with someone knowledgeable and experienced.
You can… From all over the world. Just make an appointment 🙂
I got a Question lately:
I’m X, I’m organizing XXX. We recently received a report for the first time about abuse (inside/outside) our party. That is why we are asking various organizers about their policies. Someone told me that you were very helpful to them.
Do you have any tips or information that we can use now that we are drafting our policy?
And I hope that others will benefit if I repeat that answer here:Continue reading “Policies around abuse in parties”
It is important to talk about STDs and not think of HIV as ‘just a gay thing’. I do think that the information from Kinky Talk #27 is important for every kinkster, male and female alike.
In this talk we had several HIV+ guests that talked openly and shared tips. Like:
Continue reading “Kinky Talks: talking about HIV (not ‘just a gay thing’)”
Know your status
SEX: Unzipped is described as a ‘Comedy’. But I think it’s actually much more than that. As far as I am concerned this is Sex Education V3.0, given by the rap star Saweetie, assisted by several stand-ups who also dare to speak out about their sexuality and their sexual doubts… by a number of sexologists who also provide sound information, sound explanation and practical tips. And she is mainly assisted by a couple of blissfully unrestrained dolls.
Let’s be clear. For a lot of people, it is a really healing experience to go out to a kinky club or a fetish club for a night of debauchery and fun. Where people like you would have enjoyed your (MFX) ‘dad-bod’ tummy, your kind smile, your hands, your long skinny legs and your cute small titties, your nice and round ass or your voluptuous boobies, your long flowing hair or stormtrooper crew-cut… Why can we not go to a kinky party with mostly warm and welcoming people that most likely have dealt themselves with forms of rejection?
What does psychotherapy have to do with BDSM? We aren’t sick right?
Still I think it was really really interesting to listen to Karina Kehlet Lins, an international clinical psychologist, systemic psychotherapist, sex therapist, university lecturer and author of several books. Karina gave a presentation in our 25th Kinky Talk that I think is worth listening to.
Do I have to let my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore? Will I otherwise lose him to kink/fetish secrets? How do I know how strong it is in him? Is the urge stronger than love?
That is debatable… a debate that should be held, I guess… For only time will tell… Or better said: You will tell each other in time in your relationship
I hear about negotiation all the time. What should I negotiate and what should I get from these negotiations? And how do I prevent us from talking fun to death?
Personally, I am not too fond of the use of the word “negotiation” in relationships and (BDSM)play situations. It is very often promoted as the good thing to do before any play, it is the politically correct thing to do… even though a lot of people don’t.
In our Kinky Talks (nr. 24) too we did talk about different aspects of “chemsex”?
It might double-up the texts here and there but the Powerpoint might be an addition to the previous posts.
ChemsexContinue reading “Kinky Talk Chemsex treatment? -03b-“
Let’s talk about the ‘drug’-aspects of “chemsex” problems?
Not so much the “what and how” -that is food for other posts- but more the “why?”
Let’s talk about the ‘botttom’-aspects of “chemsex” problems? About our ideas of what should be possible and our self image.
Let’s have a bit of a look at porn. And how to enjoy it better.