I’d like to talk personally …

Shizzle

Question:
I’d like to sit down and talk about my shizzle personally with someone knowledgeable and experienced.
Answer:
You can… From all over the world. Just make an appointment 🙂

Your choices

Gadhā Armour Release

cultural appropriation

I am an experienced Gadhā Release Therapist 

The Gadhā Release Therapy (G.R.T.)
Because of the energetic properties of the fingers, we can only find a superficial release by using the hand. So using the lingam is advised to produce a more deepened and profound repeated release of energy and a deeply experienced emotional release of the root chakra armour.
Sometimes a therapeutic helper needs to acquire fluidity and smoothness by releasing the nectar of the Galā by repeated exploration of the deep Galā, as to create more of a sweet acceptance of the energy massage stick to release that Gadhā armour…
unless, of course, if you are more into painal.

If you happened to stop reading this because you hate that cultural appropriation bullshit? That is exactly what I meant to say!

Monkeypox and Sexparties

Monkeypox and Sexparties update July’22

Monkeypox virus.

Monkeypox is a disease from a virus that isn’t really airborne but gets (most likely) spread by rubbing skin to skin, or by infected skin cells that still lay around somewhere after they were rubbed off the tiny scabs from former lesions.

So if we meet our friends at Pride… P.L.E.A.S.E be responsible and don’t infect others!

Policies around abuse in parties

I got a Question lately:
Dear Hans,
I’m X, I’m organizing XXX. We recently received a report for the first time about abuse (inside/outside) our party. That is why we are asking various organizers about their policies. Someone told me that you were very helpful to them.
Do you have any tips or information that we can use now that we are drafting our policy?
Sincerely, X

And I hope that others will benefit if I repeat that answer here:

Kinky Talks: talking about HIV (not ‘just a gay thing’)

Sexuality

Kinky Talks # 27

Answer:
It is important to talk about STDs and not think of HIV as ‘just a gay thing’. I do think that the information from Kinky Talk #27 is important for every kinkster, male and female alike.

In this talk we had several HIV+ guests that talked openly and shared tips. Like:

Know your status

“SEX unzipped” for you and your children

Netflix and Chill

Answer:
SEX: Unzipped is described as a ‘Comedy’. But I think it’s actually much more than that. As far as I am concerned this is Sex Education V3.0, given by the rap star Saweetie, assisted by several stand-ups who also dare to speak out about their sexuality and their sexual doubts… by a number of sexologists who also provide sound information, sound explanation and practical tips. And she is mainly assisted by a couple of blissfully unrestrained dolls.

I can’t go to a Kinky Club with THIS body!!!

Fetish

Gotta love Rihanna

Question:
Let’s be clear. For a lot of people, it is a really healing experience to go out to a kinky club or a fetish club for a night of debauchery and fun. Where people like you would have enjoyed your (MFX) ‘dad-bod’ tummy, your kind smile, your hands, your long skinny legs and your cute small titties, your nice and round ass or your voluptuous boobies, your long flowing hair or stormtrooper crew-cut… Why can we not go to a kinky party with mostly warm and welcoming people that most likely have dealt themselves with forms of rejection?

Kinky Talks: The Psychology of kinks

Sexuality/BDSM/Fetish

Karina Kehlet Lins

Question:
What does psychotherapy have to do with BDSM? We aren’t sick right?
Answer:
Right!

Still I think it was really really interesting to listen to Karina Kehlet Lins, an international clinical psychologist, systemic psychotherapist, sex therapist, university lecturer and author of several books. Karina gave a presentation in our 25th Kinky Talk that I think is worth listening to.

Letting my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore?

Sexuality/Fetish

Question:
Do I have to let my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore? Will I otherwise lose him to kink/fetish secrets? How do I know how strong it is in him? Is the urge stronger than love?
Answer:
That is debatable… a debate that should be held, I guess… For only time will tell… Or better said: You will tell each other in time in your relationship

Negotation or agreement? (in BDSM or swinging)

Sexuality/BDSM

Question:
I hear about negotiation all the time. What should I negotiate and what should I get from these negotiations? And how do I prevent us from talking fun to death?
Answer:
Personally, I am not too fond of the use of the word “negotiation” in relationships and (BDSM)play situations. It is very often promoted as the good thing to do before any play, it is the politically correct thing to do… even though a lot of people don’t.

Kinky Talk Chemsex treatment? -03b-

Sexuality/Drugs

In our Kinky Talks (nr. 24) too we did talk about different aspects of “chemsex”?
It might double-up the texts here and there but the Powerpoint might be an addition to the previous posts.

Chemsex