Fetish Question:Let’s be clear. For a lot of people, it is a really healing experience to go out to a kinky club or a fetish club for a night of debauchery and fun. Where people like you would have enjoyed your (MFX) ‘dad-bod’ tummy, your kind smile, your hands, your long skinny legs and yourContinue reading “I can’t go to a Kinky Club with THIS body!!!”
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How Do I Find a Dominant Partner (in a Good Way)?
BDSM Question: “Hans, I am a hetero guy, aware of my submissive BDSM-feelings. What would be the best way to find a nice play-partner who has dominant feelings? I do encounter people online -and before corona, I went to a club once-, but I never took the step to ask a Domme/Mistress if she wouldContinue reading “How Do I Find a Dominant Partner (in a Good Way)?”
BDSM/Fetish – infatuation
BDSM/Fetish Question: My partner opened our relationship to give me room to explore my BDSM-feelings. And I have met my D-type last month and now I am seriously doubting wether to continue my vanilla relationship? Answer: Being ‘in looove‘ is a wonderful feeling. It is a strong feeling, not to be messed with, and itContinue reading “BDSM/Fetish – infatuation”
A post about Sub frenzy that is appreciated best afterward
BDSM Question: What do those beginning subbies think when they enter the scene and deliver themselves hands tied, with health and heart and soul to this Dom(me) they really know nothing about. Answer: Actually, they don’t… Subfrenzy is sooo sexy. It is so cute to look at and it’s so devastating, sometimes. Subfrenzy is theContinue reading “A post about Sub frenzy that is appreciated best afterward”
Healing aspects in BDSM
Sexuality/BDSM/Kink Question: Lately, I am on the interested in healing elements in BDSM. So I am interested in (online) conversations with people that are into BDSM and also have diagnoses like (C)PTSD, depression, autism, AD(H)D etc.etc. (No, I am not interested in the dirty details, NO, I don’t think that ‘BDSM-therapy’ is a good thing.Continue reading “Healing aspects in BDSM”
How to get your Self out of the Binge-and-Purge Cycle?
General Question: How can I get myself out of this binging purging cycle where I indulge in my fetish and have a blast. But during my purging, I really reject this side of my personality and throw away all of my gear. How can I prevent the purges or the binging? Answer: Binging and PurgingContinue reading “How to get your Self out of the Binge-and-Purge Cycle?”
The #MeToo and #BalanceTonCochon hashtags and what we can learn from kinky men
following the #MeToo hashtag Alyssa Milano’s #MeToo action shows how many women have experienced sexual transgressions in their life. And no, that’s not just a little whistling on the street. And no, that’s not innocent because that insecurity does things with a mind. If we dare to look, we’ll see that it is normal that more women haveContinue reading “The #MeToo and #BalanceTonCochon hashtags and what we can learn from kinky men”
Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship
Consider your sexual polarities Question: I’d like to understand the kicks of my partner… / I’d like to come out of the closet to my partner… / I’d like to converse about my kicks… …but I don’t know where to start. Answer: If you see certain aspects of sexuality in their polarity you could useContinue reading “Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship”