My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

MyHeartIsStrongerQuestion: My boyfriend said that she was happy for me that I can experiment with my submissive feelings. We tried and he’s not into BDSM and we agreed that I am allowed to “find my master”… no limits… He says he is fine with that and I really really want to believe him, but it is almost unbelievable to me!
Answer: Now that is what we call “Compersion” (a.k.a. “Frubble”) and it is a scary feeling if you haven’t experienced it much in your life. Compersive feelings are positive loving feelings one can feel towards a partner (and perhaps even toward the “partner’s partner”) Continue reading My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

Venting or Gossiping: What’s the difference?

Sexuality

This is actually a question that was part of a conversation…. But the answer to this question seems more interesting than the (rhetorical) question in itself…

KinkAwareCoach-UndercurrentQuestion: if I talk with my sisters about my partner, that helps me to get the things of my chest, right?
Answer:¬†“Yo”.. (or “Nes”… meaning Yes-or-No depending on the way you do it.

Yes, trying to press away emotions in your heart is probably not the best way to find emotional health.
But there is a big difference between “venting” and “gossip”. Continue reading Venting or Gossiping: What’s the difference?

Polyamory: do I start mono and open up or do I start poly?

KinkindeRelatie Polyamorie of nietQuestion:
Should we start with a monogamous relationship before we open our relationship or should we start poly?
-Ann-

There are 2 levels of answering to this question
# Answer 1 (theoretical):
All over all it does not make much difference.
Continue reading Polyamory: do I start mono and open up or do I start poly?

Now what is that “compersion” thing in #Polyamory?

(Relationship) Shizzle

Question:
Now what is this “compersion” thing?
Answer:
Compersion (or “Frubble”) is a positive loving feeling you feel towards your partner (and perhaps even toward your partners partner) when you see or hear your partner enjoying things he/she does with someone else. It is more or less the opposite of jealousy (even tho you might sometimes feel jealousy and compersion at exactly the same time)

Compersion is enjoying giving the love by giving space.

Continue reading Now what is that “compersion” thing in #Polyamory?