I would really like to buy a nice “safety knife” for the birthday of a friend who is crazy about bondage. You know to cut ropes if needed…
Do you also have a tip for me what to look for? Answer:
In my opinion, you really find beautiful knives with money in (expensive) shops or with a bit of luck (for example in France along the highway)
BUT more importantly … I’d like warn against creating a massacre !!!
To get rid of a bondage fast, a knife is NOT useful!
Knives and bondages
Just think about it a little. When are you going to cut your expensive rope?…
You really do this in emergency situations only. Where you don’t have time or when you’re just too nervous to loosen knots … and then you would start poke with a nicely sharpened knife between corded ropes to cut … you see the massacre that potentially would give?
Or, at such a moment, you may find that should not try to do it that way. And in a slight panic you start to saw on that rope from the outside…. But while doing that and that moment you have sawed through that corded rope, so that this is just cut-rope springs away releasing the tension on the meat that was held back by the rope… straight into the cutting edge of your knife!
Those are gifts that are more fun to give than to actually use 😀
A better idea is …
Less spectacular of course, but you may better have a sharp bandage scissor … with such a nice blunt tip that makes it easy for you to get under the bondage without cutting the skin. Or you can also buy a sharp (!) Garden scissors. One way up with a bend that can easily come under the bondage without pricking into the skin …
This would allow you to quickly cut a rope around the neck when a bondage has been slipped away and reached the neck during a suspension (these are the moments of bondage cutting ). That’s what the scissors need to be around and you really have less of a knife.
To make sure sure that I’m not writing bullshit, I went to “Old man” (Damstreet in A’dam)* today (always a pleasure to snuggle around IRL again) and what is it I see: there is a trend in which knives start to come with a bondage cutting ‘hook’ that is useful for hooking under and cutting bondage rope. But do pay attention!
In another shop, I also saw something similar, but there that knife had such a small hook that it could not fit a 6mm bondage rope, so it could not be cut without starting to yank on that rope heavily. Furthermore, a good scissor has the advantage that you do not have to pull on the ropes as to cut them. The other windings won’t be tightened by the rigger pulling on one of the turns.
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If we talk about a “triangle of love” in the BDSM-scene, most people think of a threesome, or of bondage-patterns over naked skin. Understandable but it kinda adds to the view that “those BDSM-kinda-people are not really capable of love” (Yes I know some relationship therapists still have this outdated view, even tho there is no scientific evidence to back that up… au contraire by the way!).
So I thought it a good idea to talk a bit about love in BDSM-relationships.
I want a slavegirl who does what I say. How do I find a woman to submit to my every whim? And I want to give her to friends to fuck and shit.
But what if she does not want to what I want, what are my rights as a Dominant? Answer:
Ooookay… First to be said: I have exactly the same fantasy. So no judgement here about your fantasies. And I do really hope that you’ll get to live your fantasies and I write this answer to help you get there.
But… there is a small thing that often stands between us and our fantasies and often that is a word that starts with an “r” (and ends with “eality”) 😉 Continue reading I want to have my own slavegirl… what are my rights?
So if you are just a tiny bit like me you do not really mind to see beautiful women clad in latex and leather and lace. Great chance!
In alphabetical order the six European topmodels Kay Morgan, Lotte Groeneweg, MadMoiselle Peachy, Psylocke, Sister Sinister, Starfucked teamed up to createwww.Terminal-F.com.
I hear about negotiation all the time. What should I negotiate and what should I get from these negotiations? And how do I prevent us from talking the fun to death?
Personally, I am not too fond of the use of the word “negotiation” in relationships and (BDSM)play situations. It is very often promoted as the good thing to do before any play, it is the political correct thing to do… even though a lot of people don’t. Continue reading Negotation or agreement (in BDSM or kink-play)
Hans, I’d like to start with bondage… Could you give me a hand? Answer:
Well… apart from giving a hand I’d better give you some safetytips and a series of youtu.be’s so you can start yourself and follow the leads Youtube gives to start surfing. I am not a ‘bondagemaster’ myself but I would like people to play safely so I can give you at least an idea and a direction to surf. And of course these leads are completely arbitrary and if you have tips for great additions: let me know.
I’d like to understand the kicks of my partner… / I’d like to come out of the closet to my partner… / I’d like to converse about my kicks…
…but I don’t know where to start. Answer:
If you see certain aspects of sexuality in their polarity you could use that as a good start for conversations such as the ones mentioned in the ‘question’. Continue reading Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship
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Also you could (next to this lighthearted version) have a serious look at a home-family First Aid-kit
I have a fetish for diapers and I don not mean to stop liking that stuff, what I experience as a problem is the urge to pleasure myself when I see or think about a diaper. I want my abdl life to be pure, like that of a child’s. Not masturbating fives times a day which leads me into self hate and depression. I want to have the cute cuddly stuff for regression values, not because it makes me feel horny. I start fantasize about my close friends that don’t even know that ABDLs exist. When I see them I remember what I fantasized about them which leads to uncomfortable feelings. Can you help me to stop being such a pervert? Continue reading You have any sex – addiction tips? #ABDL