Healing aspects in BDSM

Sexuality/BDSM/Kink Question: Lately, I am on the interested in healing elements in BDSM. So I am interested in (online) conversations with people that are into BDSM and also have diagnoses like (C)PTSD, depression, autism, AD(H)D etc.etc. (No, I am not interested in the dirty details, NO, I don’t think that ‘BDSM-therapy’ is a good thing.Continue reading “Healing aspects in BDSM”

a Q&A about ABDL with Emma for Bold Pleasures

Fetish Emma and I did an AMA (Ask Me Anything) about ABDL for Bold Pleasures* which I thin is really informative to the general public. We ended up talking for one and a half hours about ABDL with Sonja to clarify things about this growing but often frowned upon fetish. In a world where rappersContinue reading “a Q&A about ABDL with Emma for Bold Pleasures”

The “BDSM is therapeutic”-discussion

BDSM/Kink Question: Do you think that bdsm can help through difficult emotional times in your life? How can it help me emotionally? Answer: Questions like this always spark the discussion “is BDSM therapeutic?” and “Could there be BDSM-therapy?” Even tho a lot of laymen would want to stand in the shadow of good old Freud,Continue reading “The “BDSM is therapeutic”-discussion”

Question: A real dominant doesn’t fuck on first dates, right?

BDSM/Dating Question: Some dude is messaging me about meeting me and wanting to get laid. I told him a real dominant doesn’t jump right into bed with someone first meet. Now he’s complaining it’s a bit of a train journey “just for a drink”. Is this in my head or am I right? Answer: oh…Continue reading “Question: A real dominant doesn’t fuck on first dates, right?”

How to get your Self out of the Binge-and-Purge Cycle?

General Question: How can I get myself out of this binging purging cycle where I indulge in my fetish and have a blast. But during my purging, I really reject this side of my personality and throw away all of my gear. How can I prevent the purges or the binging? Answer: Binging and PurgingContinue reading “How to get your Self out of the Binge-and-Purge Cycle?”

a free online Conference call about BDSM, Kink, alternative lifestyles

Sunday, March 11, 2018 11am Pacific Time 2pm Eastern Time 7pm Greenwich Time 8pm Central European We’ll have We’d like you to join us for one hour of live Q&A with the boldpleasures team. For newcomers and those of you who are curious about BDSM, kink and alternative relationships. Register at https://boldpleasures.com/ask-us-anything-live/ Your Hosts thisContinue reading “a free online Conference call about BDSM, Kink, alternative lifestyles”

The #MeToo and #BalanceTonCochon hashtags and what we can learn from kinky men

following the #MeToo hashtag Alyssa Milano’s #MeToo action shows how many women have experienced sexual transgressions in their life. And no, that’s not just a little whistling on the street. And no, that’s not innocent because that insecurity does things with a mind. If we dare to look, we’ll see that it is normal that more women haveContinue reading “The #MeToo and #BalanceTonCochon hashtags and what we can learn from kinky men”

11/10 – a closet is no place to live!

General Out of the Closet? Getting out of the closet requires courage… every time again Not rarely, people, with or without a relationship, have trouble finding out their “other than usual sexuality.” And to me, that seems only logical in a society that is so closed-minded to its own sexuality that everything different is immediatelyContinue reading “11/10 – a closet is no place to live!”

An essay on Breast Safety

Sex (hard)/BDSM Question: S asks: I do like to be treated roughly during sex and my friend and I are really into BDSM. He likes to sometimes hit my breasts and I do enjoy that very much. But it sometimes worries me, Breasts are rather tender, aren’t they? Should I be worried? Answer: “Nos” orContinue reading “An essay on Breast Safety”