Relating in Relationships (Post-Valentine Thoughts) If we understand our brain stem as an important function in our information processing, that helps to make wiser choices for our relationships. In the ‘polyvagal theory’, things are clearer to understand. If we truly understand our -lower, more animalistic- information-processing level, we can understand how we will see theContinue reading “Relating and your Brainstem”
Category Archives: Sexuality
Kinky Talks: talking about HIV (not ‘just a gay thing’)
Sexuality Answer:It is important to talk about STDs and not think of HIV as ‘just a gay thing’. I do think that the information from Kinky Talk #27 is important for every kinkster, male and female alike. In this talk we had several HIV+ guests that talked openly and shared tips. Like: Know your status
I can’t go to a Kinky Club with THIS body!!!
Fetish Question:Let’s be clear. For a lot of people, it is a really healing experience to go out to a kinky club or a fetish club for a night of debauchery and fun. Where people like you would have enjoyed your (MFX) ‘dad-bod’ tummy, your kind smile, your hands, your long skinny legs and yourContinue reading “I can’t go to a Kinky Club with THIS body!!!”
Letting my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore?
Sexuality/Fetish Question:Do I have to let my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore? Will I otherwise lose him to kink/fetish secrets? How do I know how strong it is in him? Is the urge stronger than love?Answer:That is debatable… a debate that should be held, I guess… For only timeContinue reading “Letting my fetishist partner experiment if I won’t join the fetish action anymore?”
Negotation or agreement? (in BDSM or swinging)
Sexuality/BDSM Question:I hear about negotiation all the time. What should I negotiate and what should I get from these negotiations? And how do I prevent us from talking fun to death?Answer:Personally, I am not too fond of the use of the word “negotiation” in relationships and (BDSM)play situations. It is very often promoted as theContinue reading “Negotation or agreement? (in BDSM or swinging)”
Kinky Talk Chemsex treatment? -03b-
Sexuality/Drugs In our Kinky Talks (nr. 24) too we did talk about different aspects of “chemsex”?It might double-up the texts here and there but the Powerpoint might be an addition to the previous posts. Chemsex
What goes wrong in Chemsex treatments? -02-
Sexuality/Drugs Let’s talk about the ‘botttom’-aspects of “chemsex” problems? About our ideas of what should be possible and our self image.Let’s have a bit of a look at porn. And how to enjoy it better.
What goes wrong in Chemsex treatments? -01-
Let’s talk about treatments for “chemsex”. Because the ‘closed-minded’ approach that I often see around me gives (in my opinion) rather violent unwanted results
BDSM/Fetish – infatuation
BDSM/Fetish Question: My partner opened our relationship to give me room to explore my BDSM-feelings. And I have met my D-type last month and now I am seriously doubting wether to continue my vanilla relationship? Answer: Being ‘in looove‘ is a wonderful feeling. It is a strong feeling, not to be messed with, and itContinue reading “BDSM/Fetish – infatuation”
Chemsex: addiction & dependence
Sexuality Question: I hear you help people that are having problems with chemsex? Could you say more about that, please? Answer: Sure! have talked about the subject before on our ‘Kinky Talks’ (English) that I do with our fab Adalberto. We’ve talked about it in our ‘Tabootalks’ (Dutch). And I’ll talk about it on SundayContinue reading “Chemsex: addiction & dependence”