I want to have my own slavegirl… what are my rights?

Victor Cobo - a Mouth in a Glory hole-

BDSM

Question:

on Being a Dom(me)

Victor Cobo - a Mouth in a Glory hole-
Victor Cobo – a Mouth in a Glory hole-

Hi Hans,
I want a slavegirl who does what I say. How do I find a woman to submit to my every whim? And I want to give her to friends to fuck and shit.
But what if she does not want to what I want, what are my rights as a Dominant?
Answer:
Ooookay… First to be said: I have exactly the same fantasy. So no judgement here about your fantasies. And I do really hope that you’ll get to live your fantasies and I write this answer to help you get there.
But… there is a small thing that often stands between us and our fantasies and often that is a word that starts with an “r” (and ends with “eality”) 😉
Continue reading I want to have my own slavegirl… what are my rights?

Remember to embrace the FLUFF (an acronym when talking about sexual whishes)

General Sexuality

Question:

KinkAwareCoach_SexTalkI am kinda afraid to talk to my lover about the kinky things I find hot. How do I start that conversation about my fetishes? Any ideas?

a question I got on FetBuzz*

Answer:
Embrace the F.L.U.F.F.!… And don’t even try to do this without blushing. It will be awkward and the golden rule in these situations is:

Embrace your awkwardness!

That is hard (believe me, I know!), but with practice comes virtue. And of course that doesn’t do you much good if you haven’t got that virtue yet… But dare to hope! Go for it! (your seventy year old self will hate you for not trying it!)
Remember: it might even be one of the most liberating things you ever did for yourself.
Continue reading Remember to embrace the FLUFF (an acronym when talking about sexual whishes)

My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

MyHeartIsStrongerQuestion: My boyfriend said that she was happy for me that I can experiment with my submissive feelings. We tried and he’s not into BDSM and we agreed that I am allowed to “find my master”… no limits… He says he is fine with that and I really really want to believe him, but it is almost unbelievable to me!
Answer: Now that is what we call “Compersion” (a.k.a. “Frubble”) and it is a scary feeling if you haven’t experienced it much in your life. Compersive feelings are positive loving feelings one can feel towards a partner (and perhaps even toward the “partner’s partner”) Continue reading My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

“Red Flags” Wat zijn dat dan?


woorden… (talk about sex)

Question:
“Red Flags” Wat zijn dat bij Kink?

annlies

Answer:
Een red flag in de kink-wereld is een term voor gedragingen of uitspraken van iemand die de omgeving alert zou mogen maken dat iemand mogelijk niet zo “onschuldig” is of dat zelfs een situatie potentieel gevaarlijk is: fysiek of emotioneel.

Voor alle duidelijkheid: de kink-scene is een positieve scene met voornamelijk aardige en open minded mensen. Maar juist de openmindedness van de BDSM-community maakt dat deze scene ook aantrekkelijk is voor mensen met soms serieuze of zelfs gevaarlijke problematiek.
Daarom wordt er in “de scene” ook wel gesproken over zogenaamde “Red Flags”.
Zie: Posts betreffende Red Flag op KinkindeRelatie.nl


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