You have any sex – addiction tips? #ABDL



KinkAwareCoach_DiaperSexI have a fetish for diapers and I don not mean to stop liking that stuff, what I experience as a problem is the urge to pleasure myself when I see or think about a diaper. I want my abdl life to be pure, like that of a child’s. Not masturbating fives times a day which leads me into self hate and depression. I want to have the cute cuddly stuff for regression values, not because it makes me feel horny. I start fantasize about my close friends that don’t even know that ABDLs exist. When I see them I remember what I fantasized about them which leads to uncomfortable feelings. Can you help me to stop being such a pervert? Continue reading You have any sex – addiction tips? #ABDL


My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

MyHeartIsStrongerQuestion: My boyfriend said that she was happy for me that I can experiment with my submissive feelings. We tried and he’s not into BDSM and we agreed that I am allowed to “find my master”… no limits… He says he is fine with that and I really really want to believe him, but it is almost unbelievable to me!
Answer: Now that is what we call “Compersion” (a.k.a. “Frubble”) and it is a scary feeling if you haven’t experienced it much in your life. Compersive feelings are positive loving feelings one can feel towards a partner (and perhaps even toward the “partner’s partner”) Continue reading My boyfriend lets me date another… #panic!

About Sex and GHB and XTC … and about dependency perhabs?

About Sex and GHB and ecstasy … and dependency

Kink Aware Coach Lady Parts Question: ” Dear Hans,
My problem is that I have difficulty letting go of my “inhibitions”. Because of this I’m hardly ever excited, I’ve never came and I almost never really want sex. But there was one time where it’s been different: when I was using XTC. After the pill hit me I knew exactly what I wanted in terms of sex and I even showed that to my friend. I know it’s not the right way: using drugs regularly for sex, but I long for that feeling again.
Can you tell me how I can experiment with GHB and/or XTC? And whether this can help me with the inhibitions which I have and/or the control-issues that I can not let go?”
Sincerely, E.

Answer: Continue reading About Sex and GHB and XTC … and about dependency perhabs?

The risk of choking or swallowing your panties or briefs in bondage?

BDSM/Sex Tip

I sometimes see movies with tape on the mouth or bondage over the mouth and often first something is introduced in the mouth, usually certain garments 😉 But isn’t this a bit dangerous?

? Bob

Of course you need to be careful when you put something in someone’s mouth and of course you must keep an eye on the breath continually. And of course you’ll need to constantly stay closeby (you yourself or someone you trust with your life -literately-) in case something goes wrong. Continue reading The risk of choking or swallowing your panties or briefs in bondage?

Am I a sex-addict?

(Relationship) Shizzle

It’s been more than two weeks since I have had sex and now I am literally going stir crazy. I can’t sleep and I can’t stop wanting sex really bad. I am out of town for work and I honestly want to be faithful to my boy. I have been masturbating, but it got to point that this doesn’t do too much for me anymore. I really feel like the walls are closing in on me.


Continue reading Am I a sex-addict?

“Red Flags” Wat zijn dat dan?

woorden… (talk about sex)

“Red Flags” Wat zijn dat bij Kink?


Een red flag in de kink-wereld is een term voor gedragingen of uitspraken van iemand die de omgeving alert zou mogen maken dat iemand mogelijk niet zo “onschuldig” is of dat zelfs een situatie potentieel gevaarlijk is: fysiek of emotioneel.

Voor alle duidelijkheid: de kink-scene is een positieve scene met voornamelijk aardige en open minded mensen. Maar juist de openmindedness van de BDSM-community maakt dat deze scene ook aantrekkelijk is voor mensen met soms serieuze of zelfs gevaarlijke problematiek.
Daarom wordt er in “de scene” ook wel gesproken over zogenaamde “Red Flags”.
Zie: Posts betreffende Red Flag op

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-a slap in the face is… fun?


Is it fun to be hit in the face?

Max Landis


You bet ya!
On youtube you get to see Max Landis filming people hitting each other in the face for the first time…

Pro tips:
…remember to take of glasses and rings
…and do not hit each other on the ears to hard (do eardrums ring a bell?)

A-spot (what the f… is an ~)

Sex (tips)

De A-plek is een (nog vrij kort geleden ‘ontdekt’) lekker plekje bij de vrouw. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een zogenaamd ‘vaginaal orgsasme’ kunnen krijgen tijden het neuken door deze plek voldoende te stimuleren. (maak daar nou niet een nieuwe race van bij het vrijen maar kijk eens of jij mogelijk bij die groep hoort)
Continue reading A-spot (what the f… is an ~)

-G-spot (hoe vind ik de ~)

Sex (tips)

De G-plek is alweer een poosje terug ‘ontdekt’. Een lekker plekje bij de vrouw waar je eens naar op zoek kunt gaan als je een feestje bouwt. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een ‘vaginaal orgasme’ kunnen krijgen als deze plek voldoende stevig gestimuleerd wordt bij het vrijen.
Een wat steviger stimulatie is meestal wel wenselijk, dus het moet je ding zijn.Zo vind je de G-plek: Continue reading -G-spot (hoe vind ik de ~)