Kinky Talks: talking about HIV (not ‘just a gay thing’)

Sexuality Answer:It is important to talk about STDs and not think of HIV as ‘just a gay thing’. I do think that the information from Kinky Talk #27 is important for every kinkster, male and female alike. In this talk we had several HIV+ guests that talked openly and shared tips. Like: Know your status

Negotation or agreement? (in BDSM or swinging)

Sexuality/BDSM Question:I hear about negotiation all the time. What should I negotiate and what should I get from these negotiations? And how do I prevent us from talking fun to death?Answer:Personally, I am not too fond of the use of the word “negotiation” in relationships and (BDSM)play situations. It is very often promoted as the

Kinky Talk Chemsex treatment? -03b-

Sexuality/Drugs In our Kinky Talks (nr. 24) too we did talk about different aspects of “chemsex”?It might double-up the texts here and there but the Powerpoint might be an addition to the previous posts. Chemsex

An essay on Breast Safety

Sex (hard)/BDSM Question: S asks: I do like to be treated roughly during sex and my friend and I are really into BDSM. He likes to sometimes hit my breasts and I do enjoy that very much. But it sometimes worries me, Breasts are rather tender, aren’t they? Should I be worried? Answer: “Nos” or

The power of the submissive, the need of the Dom(me)

BDSM Question: Hans, how come that i can feel so strong after I have been submitting myself to my Dom? I don’t understand the dynamic between me, a victim of his Lust. So why do I feel strong instead of weak? What is my strength as a victim? Answer: ‘Victims’ actually have a lot of

Bondage tips (The Tao of the Rope)

BDSM Question: Hans, I’d like to start with bondage… Could you give me a hand? Answer: Well… apart from giving a hand I’d better give you some safetytips and a series of youtu.be’s so you can start yourself and follow the leads Youtube gives to start surfing. I am not a ‘bondagemaster’ myself but I

Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship

Consider your sexual polarities Question: I’d like to understand the kicks of my partner… / I’d like to come out of the closet to my partner… / I’d like to converse about my kicks… …but I don’t know where to start. Answer: If you see certain aspects of sexuality in their polarity you could use

What’s in my oh so Domly first Aid kit? (apart from chocolate)

Yes, I would advice anyone that is into a bit of heavier play to have a redcross (or lighter version) of first aid knowledge. No really, how hard is that and it could save lives. Also you could (next to this lighthearted version) have a serious look at a home-family First Aid-kit Now what could

About Sex and GHB and XTC … and about dependency perhabs?

About Sex and GHB and ecstasy … and dependency Question: ” Dear Hans, My problem is that I have difficulty letting go of my “inhibitions”. Because of this I’m hardly ever excited, I’ve never came and I almost never really want sex. But there was one time where it’s been different: when I was using

The risk of choking or swallowing your panties or briefs in bondage?

BDSM/Sex Tip Question: I sometimes see movies with tape on the mouth or bondage over the mouth and often first something is introduced in the mouth, usually certain garments 😉 But isn’t this a bit dangerous? ? Bob Answer: Of course you need to be careful when you put something in someone’s mouth and of

-a slap in the face is… fun?

Sex Question: Is it fun to be hit in the face? Max Landis Answer: You bet ya! On youtube you get to see Max Landis filming people hitting each other in the face for the first time… Pro tips: …remember to take of glasses and rings …and do not hit each other on the ears

A-spot (what the f… is an ~)

Sex (tips) De A-plek is een (nog vrij kort geleden ‘ontdekt’) lekker plekje bij de vrouw. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een zogenaamd ‘vaginaal orgsasme’ kunnen krijgen tijden het neuken door deze plek voldoende te stimuleren. (maak daar nou niet een nieuwe race van bij het vrijen maar kijk eens

-G-spot (hoe vind ik de ~)

Sex (tips) De G-plek is alweer een poosje terug ‘ontdekt’. Een lekker plekje bij de vrouw waar je eens naar op zoek kunt gaan als je een feestje bouwt. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een ‘vaginaal orgasme’ kunnen krijgen als deze plek voldoende stevig gestimuleerd wordt bij het vrijen. Een