An essay on Breast Safety

Sex (hard)/BDSM Question: S asks: I do like to be treated roughly during sex and my friend and I are really into BDSM. He likes to sometimes hit my breasts and I do enjoy that very much. But it sometimes worries me, Breasts are rather tender, aren’t they? Should I be worried? Answer: “Nos” orContinue reading “An essay on Breast Safety”

The power of the submissive, the need of the Dom(me)

BDSM Question: Hans, how come that i can feel so strong after I have been submitting myself to my Dom? I don’t understand the dynamic between me, a victim of his Lust. So why do I feel strong instead of weak? What is my strength as a victim? Answer: ‘Victims’ actually have a lot ofContinue reading “The power of the submissive, the need of the Dom(me)”

Bondage tips (The Tao of the Rope)

BDSM Question: Hans, I’d like to start with bondage… Could you give me a hand? Answer: Well… apart from giving a hand I’d better give you some safetytips and a series of youtu.be’s so you can start yourself and follow the leads Youtube gives to start surfing. I am not a ‘bondagemaster’ myself but IContinue reading “Bondage tips (The Tao of the Rope)”

Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship

Consider your sexual polarities Question: I’d like to understand the kicks of my partner… / I’d like to come out of the closet to my partner… / I’d like to converse about my kicks… …but I don’t know where to start. Answer: If you see certain aspects of sexuality in their polarity you could useContinue reading “Sexual polarities to understand the Kinks of your relationship”

What’s in my oh so Domly first Aid kit? (apart from chocolate)

Yes, I would advice anyone that is into a bit of heavier play to have a redcross (or lighter version) of first aid knowledge. No really, how hard is that and it could save lives. Also you could (next to this lighthearted version) have a serious look at a home-family First Aid-kit Now what couldContinue reading “What’s in my oh so Domly first Aid kit? (apart from chocolate)”

About Sex and GHB and XTC … and about dependency perhabs?

About Sex and GHB and ecstasy … and dependency Question: ” Dear Hans, My problem is that I have difficulty letting go of my “inhibitions”. Because of this I’m hardly ever excited, I’ve never came and I almost never really want sex. But there was one time where it’s been different: when I was usingContinue reading “About Sex and GHB and XTC … and about dependency perhabs?”

The risk of choking or swallowing your panties or briefs in bondage?

BDSM/Sex Tip Question: I sometimes see movies with tape on the mouth or bondage over the mouth and often first something is introduced in the mouth, usually certain garments 😉 But isn’t this a bit dangerous? ? Bob Answer: Of course you need to be careful when you put something in someone’s mouth and ofContinue reading “The risk of choking or swallowing your panties or briefs in bondage?”

-a slap in the face is… fun?

Sex Question: Is it fun to be hit in the face? Max Landis Answer: You bet ya! On youtube you get to see Max Landis filming people hitting each other in the face for the first time… Pro tips: …remember to take of glasses and rings …and do not hit each other on the earsContinue reading “-a slap in the face is… fun?”

A-spot (what the f… is an ~)

Sex (tips) De A-plek is een (nog vrij kort geleden ‘ontdekt’) lekker plekje bij de vrouw. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een zogenaamd ‘vaginaal orgsasme’ kunnen krijgen tijden het neuken door deze plek voldoende te stimuleren. (maak daar nou niet een nieuwe race van bij het vrijen maar kijk eensContinue reading “A-spot (what the f… is an ~)”

-G-spot (hoe vind ik de ~)

Sex (tips) De G-plek is alweer een poosje terug ‘ontdekt’. Een lekker plekje bij de vrouw waar je eens naar op zoek kunt gaan als je een feestje bouwt. Er zijn vrouwen (zeker niet iedereen) die claimen dat zij een ‘vaginaal orgasme’ kunnen krijgen als deze plek voldoende stevig gestimuleerd wordt bij het vrijen. EenContinue reading “-G-spot (hoe vind ik de ~)”