Having difficult conversations… (incl. the 5% rule)

(Relationship) conversations Having difficult talks with a positive outcome… Not an easy feature.I often give the following list to people who have to have difficult conversations in a relationship under pressure (a love relationship, a working relationship, a friendship relationship or a therapy relationship).This list is therefore also useful for coaches / therapists (not onlyContinue reading “Having difficult conversations… (incl. the 5% rule)”

the Narcisistic fracture of ‘Domlyhood’ (a good thing)

the feelings of Dom(me)s: the Narcisistic fracture of my Domlyhood Us Dom(me)s… especially the male ones amybe, we don’t really like to talk much about feelings. Especially our own feelings are often a bit ‘off limit’ for others to adres during play. We act, we demand, we look stern and maybe approve but mostly weContinue reading “the Narcisistic fracture of ‘Domlyhood’ (a good thing)”

Venting or Gossiping: What’s the difference?

Sexuality This is actually a question that was part of a conversation…. But the answer to this question seems more interesting than the (rhetorical) question in itself… Question: if I talk with my sisters¬†about my partner, that helps me to get the things of my chest, right? Answer:¬†“Yo”.. (or “Nes”… meaning Yes-or-No depending on theContinue reading “Venting or Gossiping: What’s the difference?”