But… What about love in BDSM?

BDSM

If we talk about a “triangle of love” in the BDSM-scene, most people think of a threesome, or of bondage-patterns over naked skin. Understandable but it kinda adds to the view that “those BDSM-kinda-people are not really capable of love” (Yes I know some relationship therapists still have this outdated view, even tho there is no scientific evidence to back that up… au contraire by the way!).
So I thought it a good idea to talk a bit about love in BDSM-relationships.

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Polyamory: do I start mono and open up or do I start poly?

KinkindeRelatie Polyamorie of nietQuestion:
Should we start with a monogamous relationship before we open our relationship or should we start poly?
-Ann-

There are 2 levels of answering to this question
# Answer 1 (theoretical):
All over all it does not make much difference.
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